Sunday, July 6, 2014

O Clement, O Loving, O Sweet...

Meet Clement Zechariah Schafer.  

1st full day at home (July 3rd)

His birthday is July 1st, 2014 and he made is big appearance at 6:28pm.  He weighed in at 8 lbs. 5.5 oz. and measured 21 inches long.   I've decided to break the experience down into a few different blog posts.  And since opening your eyes to the world outside the womb is a pretty big deal, that happens only once in a lifetime, I thought the little booger worthy of an entire post dedicated solely to him.

The Golden Hour
My water broke at 11pm on the 30th and then really broke at 2am on the 1st.  I'll save the rest of the details until another day but mention it to say that the whole laboring experience took longer than I had hoped (this being the 3rd time around). But, it was right.  It was, most definitely, worth it.   I'll not forget the wonder and awe in Pete's voice as the child emerged into the mid wife's hands.  "It's a boy?!?".  Based on previous appointments I could tell Pete was nervous about having the task to make the announcement fearing he may psychologically scar his offspring with an inaccurate label for those precious and chaotic first introductions.

They seem to have hit it off though.


Watching the Tribe.


They got the "W".  Indians-5 ; Dodgers-4.
The next few photos are from within the second hour of his birth.  Basically after the first "golden hour" that Mercy Medical Center allows for cuddle time/ skin-to-skin contact with momma.  I was more than happy to snuggle even after I got a glimpse of his condition when he emerged from under the blankets.  I couldn't help but smirk in recalling Grandma Schafer's nickname for her son/my husband, Pete, when he was younger.  "Little Shit".  One day I suspect Clement will be quite embarrassed that I displayed his meconium schmeared limbs but I didn't get a photo of the artwork he left behind on my somewhat deflated belly.  Oh well, first lesson in life son...shit happens.  We move on.




The scale shot.  I thought he was going to flip himself right out!  He managed to wrap his fingers around the top edge and pulled himself on to his side.
 In all seriousness though...God is good! After my water broke I made a pointed effort to paint my fingernails.  Something I haven't done in nearly a year. Eh, I thought, I'll at least have a day or two that I won't have to do the dishes.  I had a quick flash of, Oh, we must be having a girl then since I'm so concerned about my nails. Then,  AHHHHH!  - minor panic- but it-it-it's a bluish color so it could be a boy and that's okay.  Needless to say, despite many claims, I didn't really have a good sense throughout the pregnancy whether I was carrying a boy or a girl.  But, again, it is right.  He is right.  God has a plan.

We returned home from the hospital late on Wednesday night.  Early the next day I pulled out the Magnificat to pray.  In the opening pages was an editorial about "little ones" and their ability to see the invisible and receive the great secrets of heaven.  Then came strawberries as fruits of generosity, vacation meditation, and then... THEN... a familiar and meaningful text.  Somehow missing the connection previously, I realized that the "Salve Regina," the hymn that my father sang at our wedding for the Marian reflection, is in fact the Latin version of the "Hail Holy Queen."  This prayer was the convincing factor in selecting the name Clement.  In the months after graduating from Walsh I had invested more time and effort in praying the rosary, and I remember being especially moved by the line, "o clement, o loving, o sweet Virgin Mary."  I specifically looked up clement to see that it meant "mercy or merciful one." 




Salve, Regina, mater misericordiae;
   vita, dulcedo et spes nostra, salve.
Ad te clamamus, exsules filii Evae.

Ad te suspiramus, gementes et flentes
   in hac lacrimarum valle.

Elia ergo, advocata nostra,
   illos tuos misericordes oculos
   ad nos converte.
Et Iesum, benedictum fructum ventris tui,
   nobis post hoc exsilium ostende.
O clemens, o pia, o dulcis Virgo Maria.

Hail, Holy Queen, mother of mercy, our life, our sweetness, and our hope.
To you do we cry, poor banished children of Eve.
To you do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears.
Turn then, O most gracious advocate, your eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile show unto us the blessed fruit of your womb, Jesus.
O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary.

 

Early on Pete liked the name Clement.  I argued with him a bit, particularly with the nickname Clem (rhymes with phlegm).  Urging him to convince me and support his argument with specifics, he told me of two Clements in the early Church: one from Alexandria and a theologian, and the other from Rome and one of the early successors of St. Peter as Bishop of Rome.  After reading accounts of their lives, we were both drawn to Pope St. Clement I of Rome.  He is mentioned in the first Eucharistic prayer (right after Linus and Cletus) indicating that he was the fourth Pope.  He wrote a letter to the Church at Corinth which was circulated and read at many communities of the Mediterranean world (Read the letter here).  When the official canon of the New Testament was being decided in the 4th century, there was some support for its inclusion in Scripture.  Though it is not an inspired text and officially part of Scripture, it has many insights on faith, the early Church, and the development of the importance of the Bishop of Rome (later called "The Pope") that are still relevant today.  Once he told me he also had an "uncle" Clem that he remembers fondly from his childhood I further warmed to the name and even the possibility of our child being called Clem.

Here are some of the many faces of Clement that we have already experienced. 







We had actually demoted Clement as a name choice because we had difficulty finding a middle name to go with it.  Again credit is due to the Magnificat.  Praying one afternoon, I focused more intently on the Canticle of Zechariah.  Hmmm... Zechariah... Clement Zechariah... That could work.
Zechariah is John the Baptist's father, Elizabeth, Mary's cousin's husband.  He was struck mute when he doubted that his wife Elizabeth was pregnant but regained his voice after writing "John" on a tablet when asked what name to give his son even though John was not a family name.  The last two stanzas are my favorite.



 CANTICLE OF ZECHARIAH
 Blessed be the Lord,
The God of Israel;
He has come to His people and set them free. 
 
He has raised up for us a mighty Savior,
Born of the house of His servant David.

Through His holy prophets He promised of old
That He would save us from our enemies,
From the hands of all who hate us.

He promised to show mercy to our fathers
And to remember His holy Covenant.

This was the oath He swore to our father Abraham:
To set us free from the hands of our enemies,
Free to worship Him without fear,
Holy and righteous in His sight
All the days of our life.

You, My child shall be called
The prophet of the Most High,
For you will go before the Lord to prepare His way, 
To give his people knowledge of salvation
By the forgiveness of their sins.

In the tender compassion of our Lord
The dawn from on high shall break upon us,
to shine on those who dwell in darkness
And the shadow of death,
And to guide our feet into the way of peace.

Glory to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning
is now and will be forever. Amen. 



Getting ready to leave the hospital


I don't think it was any big secret that I was ready for #3 to make his or her appearance.  I was getting anxious and quite honestly very frustrated as other people posted pictures of their newborn babies.  Yet another exercise in patience and reminder that I'm not in charge.  Late as it was, as I sat with Clement at home praying I felt the gentle pat on my shoulder, "See my child, I knew what I was doing" and practically saw the proverbial winking face appear on the pages of the Magnificat.  Morning prayer for July 1st opened with the hymn Love Divine, All Love Excelling  which was the closing hymn at our wedding.  Similarly, the reading was Genesis 1:27-28, 31a, the 1st reading at our wedding,
God created man in his image; in the divine image he created him; male and female he created them.  God blessed them, saying to them:"Be fertile and multiply..."
...God looked at everything he had made, and he found it very good.

I couldn't agree more.


Pa-pa Schafer meets Clement


And now a round of applause for the winners.  Pete's brother Matt gets the "big" prize.  Despite the lack of written evidence at Pete's Sundaes on Sunday party for his birthday Matt said, in front of numerous witnesses, "I tried to enter in my guess twice but it didn't let me".  He guessed  Cletus Clement figuring that we'd call him CC for short.  I don't know if he even guessed a birth date or other statistics since I was trying to keep a blank face surprised that Clement was mentioned, particularly this late in the game.

Likewise, Stephen J. Francis, Sr. my grandfather, wins second prize for guessing a boy on July 1.  (Sorry Becky Z.- grandpa wins by a nose because he's 80 years old and shares his birthday with Clement)

And Jen Jab you win for most creativity.  Thanks for having fun playing the game and adding in the reasoning and laughs.  Big brother reactions will be coming soon in a follow-up post.


I'm hearing sirens for a late night snack.  Peace be with you all!

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Cabin Fever

It is finished!



Almost...


I'm keeping Pete company as he improves some of the miscellaneous areas throughout the house tonight.  We'll see who finishes first...  Apparently, I just lost (1:55am) so now my challenge is to see if I can publish before 2:15.

Here are the major portion of before and after photos covered in reverse order of how we completed them.

Boys' Room
BEFORE:  off-white

AFTER: Cerulean, photos of Greece, the Sea of Galilee and Jerusalem. Also, a "dinner" bell from Great Grandma Schafer.





Master Bedroom
BEFORE: Off-White


AFTER: Pampas Grass

Living Room
BEFORE: Off-White with Dark Brown trim





AFTER: Mediterranean Sunset with Silent White trim




Front Entryway:
BEFORE: Off-white with carmel colored doors and dark brown trim
AFTER:  Harp Strings; Magnetic Force doors and silent white trim

Hallway and Dining Room:
BEFORE: Off-White with dark brown trim


AFTER: Harp Strings with Silent White trim; new ceiling fan and more photos from Pete's travels




Kitchen
BEFORE: Wanna guess?... Off white, Carmel cabinets, off-white doors



AFTER: Harp Strings walls, Graphite Gray cabinets, Nickel with porcelain hardware, Silent White trim


Other improvements:

Fresh shelf paper in cabinets
Reorganize cabinets
Promote FiestaWare
New white light switches and outlet covers
New air vent covers installed
New smoke/carbon monoxide detector
Side entryway trim and door painted
Touch up near ceiling fan
Wall hangings and photos 
Install doorbell
Kitchen cabinet clips installed
Kitchen counter tops- selected material and design, 3 quotes mulling, winner announced soon  (Went with Home Depot-lower quote plus 10% sale going on), installation
Curtains/shades
Hospital bags packed
Baby

Come on over to witness the improvements firsthand.

Shucks!  I almost made it.





Roadtrips and Robots

Or maybe I should say "Woad-twips and Wo-bots".  Actually,  Luke has his "R's" down pretty well.  He still struggles a bit with the "L" and the hard "C", "K", and "G" sounds.  Unfortunately, it makes it rather difficult for him to pronounce his very own name, and favorite subjects to discuss like "trains" and "cranes" sound virtually the same.


For President's Day weekend,  which typically coincides with my birthday,we decided to take a family trip to Maryland, primarily so that Pete could meet with his director.  Also, it was a quick mini-vacation and get-away.  We stayed with the Rayel family in Gaithersburg, MD, a family we met through St. John Neumann parish when we lived there.

Days ago, the Rayel's were blessed with their third son, Michael Benedict (congratulations!).  Their other two sons are right around Luke and Augustine's age.  We were grateful for the hospitality and enjoyed watching the boys interact and having some time for fellowship and prayer.  Augustine particularly enjoyed the basketball hoop.  Luke and Joseph, who is four months younger than Luke, got along pretty well for the most part playing together.  Four mobile boys under the age of 3 certainly made for an active weekend of play!
One of the days we were there, Pete was off working on his paper, so Betsy and I ventured off to the Udvar-Hazy Air and Space Museum near Dulles Airport in Virginia.  Though a little leery at first about the trip, it turned out to be the perfect outing.  Lots of planes and machines to look at.  Lots of open space and free flow traffic patterns throughout the warehouse conducive to most strollers and inquisitive almost 3 year-olds.  Aunt Kate and Uncle Andrew ventured down from Philadelphia and met us at the Museum which added another highlight and great company for our packed lunches. 



Uncle Andrew bravely offered his hand to lead the enamored entourage of exuberant elflings on an exhibition, leaving the womenfolk, and John, to talk shop. 

The rest of our visit was pretty laid back.  Hanging out with the boys who shamelessly devoured the playroom over and over again and catching up with various families and friends we met and formed relationships with at the parish and the school that I taught at.


  Well, I take that back.  I got more than a little stressed out as we ventured out as a family to meet with Pete's director, Sr. Schreiber.  Firstly, we met at a restaurant, a restaurant that we had never been to before.  And although it was a more casual dining establishment there's always an added challenge when you throw young children into the mix of new places, borrowed high chairs, wait time, cups with ice and straws, and the  expectation that they remain perfectly still and not have to use the bathroom while you carry on engaging in meaningful business oriented conversation with the other adults present. (pppp-ssshhhhhhh! No problem right?!?!?)  

Looking back on the situation I realized that 80% of the problem stemmed from placement.  Despite the "Seat Yourself" display Pete and I were approached by three different workers in a matter of 5 minutes of entering the place asking if they could help us find a seat.  We had arrived early. We were taking a moment to survey our surroundings and see if Sr. Schreiber was already seated.  The place was essentially empty with only one or two tables occupied and we were trying to decide how best to situate the boys.  Feeling rushed and pressured by the not-so-helpful staff we chose unwisely.  I ended up locked in the corner between Luke and Augustine on the booth/bench side of the table.  Pete positioned himself across the table from Luke leaving the seat next to our sweet Augustine open for his director.  The table was far too small for the over-sized plates  making it near impossible to keep certain breakables or possible messes out of the little guys' reach.  I was hardly able to choke down two bites of my own meal between attempting to keep Luke and Augustine focused and happy and listening/participating in conversation.  Augustine ignored his own platter of pasta to indulge in the sparkling, sliced strawberries that studded Sr.'s salad.  Despite her pleasant reaction and willingness to appease the child I was somewhat mortified.  Already sensitive to the reactions and comments we receive because Pete is working full-time and working on his dissertation amidst raising two  young children I imposed my own judgement of what Sr. Schreiber was surely thinking having less than an hour before shared the news of expecting #3 "Another one on the way huh?...This woman can hardly handle the two she's got!" Meanwhile my unsuspecting, usually helpful husband sat across the way, having finished his portion of antipasto, wondering when I was going to pass him my plate of pasta so that he could sample it before it cooled. 

I managed to hold it together as I carted the boys off to the bathroom for a potty break/diaper change, packed up the leftovers on the table and marched off to the van with Augustine on my hip and Luke by the hand so that I could leave the two academics behind to formulate postulates of service and catechesis.  Pete's "I love you." as I buckled my safety belt was too much to bear and the tears fell hard and fast as he closed the vehicle door and returned to the restaurant after happily securing the leftovers in his bag for dinner.  Grrrrrr............. Men!

To add insult to injury I missed the entrance ramp to get back to Gaithersburg plainly reminded of the mean, inconsiderate, wreckless Maryland/DC drivers that I don't miss one bit!

Whew!

So, besides that afternoon, I would say our trip went quite swimmingly.

Augustine and John
Hanging out in the playroom
Little bros in PJs sharing!


Fun at the rest stop

Our next adventure included celebrating Luke's 3rd birthday.  He had become a fan of WALL-E and so requested a robot cake.  I took the opportunity to utilize some of my Cricut cartridges to make valentines in addition to some invitations to the party to family/friends.  Below is just one sample as I couldn't resist affixing a variety of robots to the different cards.

The cake warranted a stop at one of my favorite stores Mr. Bulky's so that I could pick out select candy pieces to help with decorating.


We had a decent turnout with special guests great grandma and grandpa Francis and Luke's godfather Andrew who was able to come since it fit in between his work schedule.  Grandma Angie, Grandpa Steve, uncles Andy, Stevie, and Matt, Aunt Debbie and 5/7ths of the Schafer cousins were also present.  Grandma and Grandpa Schafer were off partying at the Nun Run in Arizona but supplied the handsome wardrobe of the birthday boy. I made some pulled beef and shredded chicken to put on some buns, some coleslaw and potato slices I think.  There was a minor glitch when I added cinnamon to the crock pot with the chicken instead of cumin but it still turned out alright.  Not the greatest, but alright.

honored guests

Grandma Angie and her boys


We extended Luke's birthday celebration on to the next weekend when we travelled to Cincinnati.  We spent a full day at the Cincinnati Museum Center which houses three museums under one roof.  We spent most of our time in the Duke Energy Children's Museum there after exploring the Celtic Festival in the main vestibule to play games, answer trivia, and earn half price tickets to the museum.  We stayed at a hotel -with a swimming pool- which is what Luke finds most memorable,  ate at a local Mexican restaurant where the boys provided the after dinner entertainment by displaying their version of break dancing near our table, and then went to the Circus the next morning.








We enjoyed the show immensely and were quite impressed by the costumes and choreography as there was no "dead time" minus the intermission.  The tickets weren't that expensive in my opinion but the paraphernalia and snacks at the show made up for it. We splurged on the $8 box of popcorn and tried desperately to not let a single golden kernel hit the floor ;-) We were glad that they maintained the integrity of live music throughout the show despite having added some sound equipment to amplify the tunes.  The show was a bit too much for Augustine who seemed to experience sensory overload and thus needed to take a break, and just walk around  toward the end of the second half. We were back on the road north by 1:30pm where we at some lunch and all but daddy settled in for a snooze.